Tuesday, April 15, 2014

10 Ways to Avoid Giving Up

 
 
This is a repost from last year on April 15th. I hope you are still hanging on, and making progress.
If you are currently struggling, as we all are from time to time, keep reading.


Don't throw in the towel just yet. I know, I know...it's hard. You feel like you've given your all and it is still not good enough. You aren't seeing the results you want and you wonder if the fight is even worth it.

It is.

Faith is a concept I love, but I often struggle with it when it comes to my own life. Oh you can relate? Yes, I thought you could.

So as I sit here contemplating all of my reasons to give up, I think of you. I think to myself, what would I tell you, if you were contemplating the same thing.

 Since giving up is not an option, here are 10 things you can do instead of walking away when things look bleak. None of these are groundbreaking or new, but it's good to be reminded.

1. Pray- Overly simple. Prayer I have found, can bring you back from the brink of despair. It can help you to find peace where before there wasn't any.
2. Meditate- Meditating or even just sitting quietly helps you to see and hear things you couldn't when you were fretting.
3. Journal- Writing down what you are feeling is a great way to get clear. Write it down and get it out without censoring yourself.
4. Be Grateful- Whenever I feel like everything is going wrong, and all hope is lost, if I say even one thing that I'm grateful for aloud, I notice that my attitude begins to shift for the better. Try it.
5. Run- Ok you don't have to jump up and run a six minute mile, but moving helps you to stay sane. Sometimes just sitting and thinking negative thoughts robs you of all of your energy.
If you get up and do even one active thing like unloading the dishwasher, or taking out the trash, or doing a workout dvd, it helps to elevate your mood.
6. Find a friend- Sometimes you can feel like you don't have anyone to talk to. A friend can be anything, from your higher power to a pet. Find a friend and lean on that friend when you are having a tough time.
7. Look to your list- When you are in a good mood, come up with a list of things you can do if ever a sad, stressful, frustrated, or angry mood comes on. Then when the mood does come, use the list.
8. Read or Listen- A lot of mood elevation can come from reading something positive or listening to it. Just seeing positive words can help you to feel more positive.
9. Work- Your problems aren't just going to solve themselves, you must do the work. In what areas can you improve? Work on those. Anything worth having, takes work including peace of mind.
10. Enjoy the good times- It is important to live in the moment and be excited about the good times. When things are going well, revel in it. Store up the memory for a down day-- which is sure to come around again-- and perhaps it will help you to remember that tough times don't last.


The lotus is one of my favorite flowers because it grows up through mud and blooms in the sunlight. I hope that you too will be able to rise above the muddy areas in your life and bloom in the sunlight.

Monday, February 24, 2014

Guest Post--New Reasons to Quit Smoking from the Surgeon General


Bad news for smokers: your habit might cause even more health problems than you previously believed.

According to a new report released by the Surgeon General, smoking increases the risk for diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, erectile dysfunction, impaired fertility, colorectal and liver cancer, and immune system weakness.

The news isn’t great for people who spend a lot of time around smokers either: according to the report, second-hand smoke increases the risk for strokes in non-smokers.

It’s been 50 years since the U.S. Surgeon General released a report officially linking smoking to lung cancer, and the knowledge of just how much damage smoking can do to your health has helped a lot of people kick the habit. We’ve come a long way, but smoking is still a popular habit in our country, and roughly 20.8 million people have died of smoking-related diseases since that original report in 1964.

For many of those people who smoke today, knowing the additional risk for the diseases outlined in the Surgeon General’s report won’t be a strong enough motivation to quit. After all, you’d be hard-pressed to find anyone who believes that smoking is actually good for them. People don’t smoke for their health; they smoke because it’s an addictive habit they get into, and trying to quit can lead to unpleasant withdrawal symptoms.

In addition to knowing the health risks, many people need a stronger motivation to quit smoking. Here are just a few that have worked for some former smokers:

Parents sometimes find motivation by telling themselves they don’t want their children to pick up the habit, and that they don’t want to die before their time of a smoking-related disease and miss seeing their children (or grandchildren!) grow up.


Recent studies have proved that exercise temporarily reduces cigarette cravings, and getting into a regular exercise routine has helped many people quit smoking. It also motivates people to stay smoke-free so that they can get in better shape and enjoy an active lifestyle.


One company now produces smoking cessation software that shows smokers what they would look when they’re older if they continue to smoke regularly. Since smoking a pack a day causes a person to take on the wrinkles of someone 1.4 times their age, some people are successfully able to scare themselves into quitting after seeing how their habit will impact their appearance.


A researcher from the University of Georgia recently found that smokers who use social media as a motivational tool during their quitting attempt are more likely to stay smoke-free than those who don’t use social media. Many people update their progress on Facebook, Twitter, or health-specific social media sites to give themselves a support network and greater accountability.

When it comes down to it, it doesn’t really matter whether people give up smoking because of health concerns or because of another motivational factor. What matters is that people find a tool that empowers them to kick the habit and live a healthier lifestyle.

 

Juliana Weiss-Roessler is a freelance writer and co-owner of Weiss-Roessler Writing with her husband Josh. She writes about a wide range of topics, including health, fitness, and running a small business. She currently lives in Austin, TX with Josh, her 20-month-old son, and two rescue dogs.

Monday, February 10, 2014

Is Grad School Necessary?

In my latest article written for Monster College I discuss several things students should consider before applying to graduate school.



When students first finish their undergraduate degrees, they feel a strong sense of accomplishment. New graduates often are optimistic about embarking on a new career.
A few months after graduation, however, some students get frustrated by their inability to find a job in their chosen field.
As a result of chronic unemployment or being dissatisfied with the job they do have, many people choose to continue their education in graduate school.

Here are some things to consider before going back to school:

Read the rest of the article here.

Monday, February 3, 2014

Intern to Employee


I'm a huge proponent of students working internships. Internships allow students to apply what they've learned in the classroom to a real job.

Some students are able to turn their internships into their first full-time job.  It is a great thing to be able to graduate college, and immediately be able to work in your chosen career field. Many college graduates aren't as fortunate.

In my latest article written for Fastweb, I give some tips for turning your internship into a paying job.

Find out what you can do to make your first job out of college a job you love by checking out my article here.

Monday, January 27, 2014

Self-Sabotage: Stop It!



In Steven Pressfield's book "Do the Work" he says that all people have a voice in their heads that attempts to sabotage their best efforts.

He calls this voice or urge to give up "resistance." Resistance doesn't want you to do anything new, or risk looking silly in order to achieve a goal or dream. It lists all of the reasons why you can't accomplish something, and causes you to find every opportunity to procrastinate.

Have you ever started out working on a new endeavor with gusto only to drop the idea half-way through? Do you long to take a new class, start a new business, or complete a new work of art or social importance, but can't seem to find the time? You are most likely listening to resistance and sabotaging yourself.

In his article, "How Not to Sabotage Yourself" Sam Ferrigno, gives a list of things you can do to ensure that resistance doesn't win.

We all have goals, dreams, and even to-do lists that we want to place check marks next to.

It is time to stop sabotaging ourselves, and start accomplishing what we set out to do.

Monday, January 20, 2014

Live Differently



"When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, 'I used everything you gave me.'" -Erma Bombeck


This past week I've come across two things that speak of what people think about most before their life is over. Whether it is a list of regrets or things left undone, what is important in life becomes clearer just before it's over.

I was shaken by this list of things dying people say they most regret.  More than half of the things on the list are things that I often put off for "one day." There are also things on the list that I spend too much time worrying about.

Ric Elias was on Flight 1549 when it went down in the Hudson River. In this video he recounts the moment when he thought his life was over, and what he has learned from it.


“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure. ” - Oprah Winfrey

The older I get, the more I see how fast time passes. I acknowledge that "one day" often becomes never.

There's a lot that I still want to do and accomplish in my life. I'm sure I can't be the only one who feels like there is so much more to be done. 

Whatever your goals or dreams are, you have to go after them. Today.

The time to do these things is now. Of course this is known in theory, but time doesn't wait for you to actually take action. That is up to you.

“Action expresses priorities.”-Gandhi

I've decided to do at least one thing every day that will put me closer to living my dreams and being the type of person I have always wanted to be.

What can you do to live differently NOW?

If you need a little push, here are some great quotes about life to get you going.

Monday, January 13, 2014

Under Pressure

We all know what pressure is. Pressure from family, friends, our jobs, even ourselves can cause us to fail at any goals we undertake.

Sometimes family members think putting you down is the best way to make you angry enough to change a bad habit. Having people close to you criticize you may not be helpful at all. Instead it may cause you to give up on your desired outcomes altogether.

There are, however, some ways that pressure can be good for you.

It is important to know which kind of pressure inspires you and which kind hinders you.

Deadlines: For me, I work best when I have a specific date and/or time when something must be completed. Whether I'm taking a college course or must turn in my latest article to an editor, having a deadline inspires me to get my work done.

Accountability: Having to allow others to view my work, makes me work that much harder to ensure that it is as near perfect as possible. Anyone seeing my work as half-done, or lazy is embarrassing to me. Just knowing that someone else will see and judge my work motivates me.

Growth: "If you're the smartest one in the room, you're in the wrong room." Richard Tirendi.

This quote fully illustrates the type of pressure that motivates me most. I love to be surrounded by, and held to the same standard as people who are smarter and more experienced than I am. It forces me to stretch and learn in ways I could not have imagined.

It is important to recognize when the pressure you feel is positive, and utilize it.

Leverage positive pressure to achieve your goals in 2014!

What kind of pressure motivates you?